“When you let go of fear and take a leap of faith, the net will appear.”
I read a similar quote recently and adapted it to my experience. Limited beliefs—fear and the sort hold us back from our authentic selves. A co-worker recently inquired, “Andrea, when and how are you so comfortable/open and free to engage people the way you do?”
Without missing a beat, I replied, “Because I just don’t give a fuck what people think of me.” I couldn’t have uttered truer words and nothing is more freeing than not having the constrictions of “what other’s may think” removed. One day, I can’t pin point it, I just stopped caring about being judged about my life and my choices. I don’t care what family/strangers/associates or foes think. Who cares really? What I’ve learned is that their judgement is about control and fear…more about them than me. Think about it—listen to what they say in judgement of you and your ideals:
- Why would you do that? Aren’t you afraid?
- That’s so risky, I’d never…
- There’s no way you can make a living doing THAT
- Well, I’d never have the courage to do that
- Well, if I were you…
- You should…
Any statement that begins with “you should” deserves to be ignored. No one deserves to be should on! All these statements have more to do with that person’s issues with happiness/life/success/fear, etc. When the supposed interested party doesn’t start the conversation with an attack, or not even about you, I say, it’s a green light to ignore. That person doesn’t know your courage/desire/intuition or desires. At least, he or she is not acting in that light. He or she is drawing from their own experience, and what you choose to do with your life doesn’t align with theirs. When you release yourself from their attempt to control, you’re free to be. Be authentically you. When we stop trying to please other people, we are free to please and enjoy ourselves.
The people we choose to have in our lives are a different situation altogether. They are present because we want them with us. There’s a connection of some kind that keeps the friendship going. They get us, and are usually of like minds, so when we decide to move across the country to start a new position in a new industry, and or marry Mr. Big, they say things like, “good luck, can’t wait to visit, and or, you’re so brave, I know you’ll succeed.” They accept you, your thoughts and ideals.
Now, just because they act as a support system doesn’t mean that they totally agree with you, but they trust that you know what you’re doing. There’s little to no judgment and you are left to be free to be you.
This “freedom” to be, allows us to interact with others in a more authentic way—apply yourself where you see fit, and take that leap of faith and succeed or fail as the case may be at something you’re passionate about. And isn’t that what life’s about? Living according to you and not someone else. More importantly, we learn more about ourselves. As you transition into walking on your own path, you will find that people will interact with you differently, they will see your strength and determination and then interact with you in that manner.
*** I just saw this quote, which speaks so well to this post: “You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is sitting back and observing things with logic. True power is restraint. If words control you that means everyone else can control you. Breath and allow things to pass. ~Warren Buffett *** Credit Sharon Dole
So, what’s preventing you from taking that leap? Just know, when we trust yourself and the process of change, the net will appear indeed. It will be in subtle ways: new business opportunities and contacts, ideas, challenges, love, fulfillment and happiness.