I’ve been a bit conflicted by this notion of life being a fairytale. Somewhere along the way, I began to equate the word fairytale with fallacy; the idea that women are indeed Princesses waiting for their Prince Charming to come along and sweep them off their feet. Post beautiful and perfect engagement and then spectacular wedding, life is indeed wonderful and full of special moments, warm deep soulful kisses, and tender nights.
I mean, who wouldn’t want that? However, in most fairytales, there’s always some obstacle to overcome, be it an evil stepmother, jealous sisters, a hateful brother, envious “best friends” or overbearing parents. The stories all end the same way, love prevails for the two love birds and they wind up in wedded bliss.
I’ve dated, married, divorced and dated again (that’s a whole other blog…) so I’ve seen my “fairytale” go up in smoke. There was something that resonated with me Sunday night as I watched Once Upon a Time. A thought came to me: I think we can definitely have our fairytale if it’s what we truly want. I think the obstacles are different here in reality: the spouse you chose to marry, the career you believe you should have and sacrifice for, the dream you’re chasing, the idea of perfection you hold out for…wait, there’s a common thread: YOU.
I think we are the obstacle in the way of our fairytale, and when we figure that out and let go of fear and the negative thoughts that run our lives, we open ourselves up for true love and happiness: the fairytale we want.
Maybe that’s the true fallacy…that there’s an obstacle outside of us, that it’s not really in our control. Regardless, I think the “ideal” looks different for everyone, but happiness is definitely yours (the collective yours) for the living.