Goodbyes are hard, but necessary at times. As difficult as they can be, they can be rewarding as well. Sometimes we hold on to things and relationships for different reasons:
None of these adjectives appear positive, right? So things in your life trigger these emotions constantly, are “tingles” that may urge you to investigate your feelings and the evidence about why you feel that way and then decide if you should let the person or situation go. We feel better when we let go of things and relationships that are:
- Not working
- One sided
Goodbyes should be hard because they force us to dig deep and ask the questions we have avoided. If done correctly, hopefully, we learn something truly profound about ourselves so that we are able better identify triggers or flags in the future. Review the good, the bad, and the moments that give you pause. Talk to some one you trust about your thoughts. If things are truly not worth salvaging, and you allow yourself to say goodbye, it’s like a weight has been lifted, your spirit is lighter…and that’s how you know.
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable with another is powerful. Good on you. Always follow up and stay alert with regards to the other person’s actions with it be a family member, a co-worker, a “friend”, spouse or potential love interest.
As we say goodbye to 2020, review what were the good moments? What were the challenging ones? Which ones do you think about as you read this post? Get help if you need to. While most people won’t have a problem saying goodbye to 2020, my hope for everyone is that 2021 brings about a very positive change. That we identify what we need to say goodbye to in 2020 and focus on in 2021 and make it one of our best years, yet!