I ran across an old suitcase today. Not a big one, one for a day jaunt, and I thought, “Is there anything in it?” and I picked it up. There was! So as if it were Christmas, I opened it to find my favorite “around the house cover”, one of “fun” summer dresses, my favorite yoga pants (you know, the…
We all like our labels. The negative labels that give us pause, but we love the good ones: For me, it’s: I’m confident/smart/attractive/kind/gregarious/zen/astute. When the labels align with who we believe we are, they make us comfortable and safe. What happens when someone labels us based on things we can’t control and misalign with who we actually are; say race/gender/beliefs?…
As many us are returning to the office, some of us are a bit leery because of the pandemic. Vaccinated or not, things have changed. Most of us experienced a challenge we had to adapt to working/schooling/living from our homes. Our once haven became a prison for the masses. The idea of escape was on all of our minds, and…
When we speak about entitlement: the belief that one is inherently more deserving of privileges or special treatment, it is not in the most positive manner. People hurl the term “entitled” as an insult, usually. S/he works for nothing. Everything just falls in her/his lap Who does s/he think they are? Walking in as if they own the place? This…
I don’t have a BFF (best friend forever). Sure, I have good friends, confidants, acquaintances, and three sisters even, and I know who my go to person is based on what I’m going through. Break-ups, good news, bad news, job stuff, humor… there’s a friend for that. When my daughter asked, “Mom, who’s your best friend?” and I was stumped.…
I sincerely believe that we are all on a path, but how do you find yours? So much of it is getting quiet, journaling, chatting with trusted confidants, and whomever else you feel will lead you the right way. A lot of times, it comes from within when you truly listen to that inner voice that wants to lead you…
Although we are in a pandemic, many of us are a little frustrated by the dating situation. Dating today is nothing more than showing your Covid test results and hanging out at his, hers, or your home. There really is not more else to do. Or is there? If you’re in a relationship, take a moment to make it fresh.…
I asked a group of women what they wanted to hear about when I write my next blog, what should it be about? One lady inquired about coping with the season. I immediately responded that we should take care of ourselves. In my practice, I’ve found that women in particular, feel guilt or a sense of neglecting others, and…
Goodbyes are hard, but necessary at times. As difficult as they can be, they can be rewarding as well. Sometimes we hold on to things and relationships for different reasons: Sentimentality Obligation Guilt Fear None of these adjectives appear positive, right? So things in your life trigger these emotions constantly, are “tingles” that may urge you to investigate your feelings…
I recently started working at a local restaurant as a barista/bartender and the idea of it excited me to no end!!! In my second fictional book, one of the main characters is a bartender and PI, private investigator. While only on the receiving end of a bar, I hadn’t had the experience of hosting a bar, so when this opportunity…